Marriage and family is one of the most important milestones of human life. But sometimes the girls were pushed to this by reasons not entirely correct.
If you try to build a family under the influence of the external promotion is sure you will hardly be a happy family and sustainable. After a few years, you will be disappointed and embarrassed. Thus, the motivation for the marriage that you should not do?
1. Blurred vision as your social status of his
Women are attracted to men who have little status, reputation, reputation. It is a powerful, powerful, important .... Generally, a head. Such men are not necessarily rich or very smart, they simply prestigious enough to attract crowds of fans. The woman he selected the principle that "if all are like him then I would like to make."
But the majority opinion is the opinion of your own? The problem is not "brand success of a human being", that is your choice. Please remember the personal qualities necessary to build strong relationships, and reliable.
2. Charming appearance
The girls from an early age has always been the handsome young attractive without paying attention to what is hidden behind a beautiful face and an attractive body. Here are the errors of human nature.Brains "counted" to the external characteristics consistent with the role of a father and identify genetic traits strongly. Tall, strong, very masculine - the woman told the hearing that he would be a good father for her son. In a sense, we do not feel it clearly, but I feel affection and love ...
But perhaps what our goal is to get kids healthy and beautiful? We seek harmony of feelings and relationships, if the choice is simply because the external form it is clear that would be a major flaw: you can not live with a painting, but with a people.
3. Your parents pushed you to this marriage
It had ancient, when the marriages of young people is the union of two families together commensurate with the status in society. Happiness from such marriages will be small, because people can not happily under the imposing, desires and goals of others. Although this tradition is gradually disappearing, but many parents still try to impose his choice for the marriage of their children. It's nice to feel your love and your parents the same way about a man. But everything will turn out if you can not love the man to please her parents? Whatever choice you are perfect parents - but you will not be happy living with people you do not love ...
4. Under the pressure of public opinion
While most friends are married, have children, they tell you about the life of a woman how great marriage, their social status increased the stars ... All these things will create psychological pressure to you. More and think more about it, the more you think it's time to get married. It's like an obsession.But not too intense desire can lead to good results.
Be calm and lucid, logical speculation. Should immediately take the first right you see or not to become a married woman? If your girlfriend really happy, not just "making of" before an unmarried girl - is not sure that happiness is simply a paper by the marriage registration. Which are the result of a proper relationship with the man she loves, is a strenuous process of building good relations ... Look to it, not how to work towards a husband!
5. To forget a failed relationship
After a broken love, or a failed marriage, to embarrass the old man, the woman began to look so long objects is quietly waiting. Marriage in such circumstances can bring a stable family, but will not be happy. Both will suffer, a woman who suffers emotional needs and passions are not satisfied, and the man realized that he not be loved, and he is generally the relationship unnecessary.
6. Because sexual needs
You met a man full of masculine, a man who can make you crazy happy in sex matters. The relationship of the attachment you mostly in secret matters in private. What you need more? The psychologist said that harmony in relationships is key to harmony in bed ... Stop! The problem here is that you need to follow due process: the first is a good relationship, then sex is, and not vice versa. Sex is simply an expression of sexual needs but not necessarily a manifestation of love. Love and sex issues are different. When the passion dies, the mistress would not have anything to say to each other ... then say something to another family?
7. To get rid of parental control
It is a very dangerous temptation of young girls want to get rid of the shine control within the family.Indeed there are families who absolutely do not want their children to live in it. The child grows up and wants to leave. In such families there is always one person ruin people's lives. It could be a tyrant with the orders must be made unconditionally, a man brutally rude always makes people scared ... And so the girls just how to solve that problem in a marriage with a man she never loved, only to be able to escape from the family. If the surviving spouse has a future of their own apartment, the marriage is even faster. You do not need to flee from their parents, you just own a place in time, become an independent person able to take responsibility for their own lives.
8. Because fear loneliness
It is often said that single people are lonely. To avoid stigma, some women quickly agree to marry a man they consider "appropriate." Living in a family like that, you will have continuous effort to convince her that "everyone lived like that", "should have to live with someone", "at his age without a family not considered to be ".
Please believe that a single woman can not only be certain that a person can be happy. Because the "best thing" - a selection loneliness consciously - not a burden that you must carry on his shoulders, but it is the independence and freedom in decision making, to concentrate on ourselves.
9. Pity - heating - and stayed there ...
No sympathy rare cases, share the cause of a relationship which was ended by a marriage. And so, a family is created just for women who do not want to harm and injure the man by his denial. But he ...of course that's convenient. No rare cases behind the mask of a person injured was a selfish man, who always wanted to be cared for and not lose anything. Such relationships offer something for you? Is really your marriage will become a heavy responsibility - you must always take care of those who "unfortunate", half "suffering and damage" it. You need to burden them? Spouses must support each other in life, not a burden to each other.
10. According to the prophecy and superstition
More and more people feel tired of the endless races of technological progress, they move to believe in mysticism. In addition, you will also agree that, it is interesting to think that your fiance is "for you" by a supernatural power. So people go to fortune tellers to hear predictions of meetings with people who are sun set, reading the horoscope, and determine a selection with the help of the planet is moving, even also pray before going to bed, "for me is a dream in which his groom."
Choose a future husband or married to someone who has just proposed marriage as "good position of Venus" is such a plan is not serious. The psychologist confirmed that those willing to endure, "the supernatural power" is because they do not want to take responsibility for themselves.
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